Se xual intercourse has been identified as one of the major problems that has destroyed many homes and marriages due to its belief.
Rev. Willie Nkanga of the Mount Zion Christ Church, Nung Ette Assembly, stated this during the solemnization of holy matrimony between former Miss Rachel Barnabas Inyang and Mr Mbosowo Okon Edet, the national youth chairman of the church, recently.
Nkanga frowned at some couples who see se x as sinful. While others believe that since they will attend church service, it should not be done on Sunday morning so that the Lord and the angels would not be angry.
Referring to 1 Corinthians 7:1-5, “Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency,â€ the clergyman questioned why couples marry, “if you do not like se x, why did you marry? Se x is for you now. There is no tiredness in this business. You have to do it because you signed up to do it. You consented to it when you signed the marriage registerâ€.
“No more hiding to do it. Se x is very important in marriage. The Lord will not be angry, you can have se x with your wife any day or anytime. Because the Bible says you must render to her what belongs to her. It did not state whether it should be done on Monday and not Sunday.
“When se x is done in marriage, it is even worship onto God. Where else will you go? God has not permitted us to marry two.
Have se x with your wife even when she is pregnant and satisfy yourselves. Make your spouse happy. If he does not know what to do, teach him. He that does not work should not eat, since you have worked and she is happy, eat.â€ He continued, “newly married couples should stay at home and enjoy themselves -Deuteronomy 24:5.
Speaking on the topic, What Makes Marriage Interesting, drawn from Ephesians 5:21, 25, 1Peter 7, Amos 3:3, Hebrews 13:4-5,Phillipians 4:11, 1Corinthians 7:1-6, Nkanga said some marriages last for months, a year, two or few years, then, a collapse as a result of lack of interest in the marriage.
He listed commitment, finance and se xuality as ingredients for a good marriage and noted they should be top on the list for a successful marriage.
As part of commitment in marriage, the cleric pointed out that the wives must submit to their husbands because of the fear of God while husbands should love their wives.
The cleric furthered that two can never go together without having an agreement. “If you do not agree together, there is going to be coercion and confusion in your marriage, so be in agreement.
“You have to work as friends if you want to succeed in your marriage. Your parents have no business in your marriage. They can only advise but the Holy Spirit is always there to tell you what to do at all times.â€
He urged the couple to love each other as a marching order according to the scriptures, adding, “no matter how beautiful, knowledgeable or any height a wife attains in life, she must submit to her husband.
“Your responsibility as a man is to love your wife. When you love your wife, you should know she needs a change of clothing and food for the family.â€
Nkanga maintained that when couples are in agreement and work together as friends, they tend to succeed in their marriage.
“When you have a problem with your spouse and pray, God will not answer your prayers, so settle your differences and be at peace with each other so that when you pray God listens – 1Peter 7.
“Marriage is a union between a man and a woman, when you stick to God, He will help you. God hates divorce and separation, do not allow the devil to bring such a suggestion. So stick together.â€
On family finances, the man of God urged the couple to be careful. “What makes you prosperous is your ability to manage your little finances. Be wise and run away from covetousness. When you are a covetous person, you will prefer to eye something very inconsequential rather than think about your family. It is not the amount of money that you have that makes you prosperous but the ability to manage the resources at your disposal.â€
“There must be a scale of preference, you do not have the amount of money that will solve all your problems at a go, so you need to list your needs according to your preference,â€ he said.
He informed that soon children’s school fees would come knocking after the wedding, hence the importance that couples stick to their plans and not get carried away by sentiments.
He further warned them to desist from hide and seek from each other. “If you have a little or large amount of money, inform your spouse and be able to tell the truth and avoid third party in your marriage
“A woman is the manager of the home. Tell her what you have and she will use her discretion to manage with what you give her. If you work as a team, outsiders will not be able to break in.â€
“Anything that is not making your marriage to work out, you should work it out. There will be challenges and problems, be able to surmount same together,â€ he submitted.
The joining of the couple which was conducted by Apostle Emmanuel Bassey witnessed the blessing of the rings as well as their exchange.
Earlier, the traditional marriage was held at Lawrence Primary School, Ikot Ambon Ibesikpo, along Aka Nung Udoe Road, Ibesikpo Asutan LGA.
Officiating ministers at the event included: Apostle Daniel Obong, Apostle Moses Inyang, Apostle Ezekiel Ukpong, Apostle Victor Bassey, Apostle Maurice Edet, Rev Stephen Bassey, Apostle E. E. Bassey, Pastor Itohowo Bruno and other anointed men of God.
Appreciating families, church, the national youth fellowship, friends and colleagues who thronged the venue to celebrate with them, the groom, Mr Edet, on behalf of the wife thanked all for coming out en masse to celebrate with them.
“With a grateful heart, we say thank you for sharing in our joy. God bless you all and safe journeyâ€.